To feel contented with surrounding reality it is crucial to be part of something “meaningful”, larger than ourselves, something that matters. // It is a post without point made by me, just thoughts for you to consider.
We actually know it from research made by happiness psychologists and, of course, it is only one of things we should feel to be contented the most. Ok, but what does it mean to feel a part of something meaningful? To engage in a (cooperative) activity that is subjectively, emotionally important to us. Take a look that it doesn’t mean that it should be valuable as activity (or result) in any objective way – so until we’re emotionally invested in, lets say, work that pays our bills and even buys for us luxurious stuff, it won’t be meaningful to us, hence we won’t be entirely contented/happy with surrounding reality. It may be objectively valuable, and people could be irritated at you and your “bitching” about it, but it still wouldn’t mean anything to you… This is where from “the first world problems” take off. Remember that moods are like weather, rich or poor – living subjectively not meaningful life will get you wet.
After hard day of “proper”/valuable work what we do to “relax”? Often we turn on console, pc or mac and play some games (or play sports, table top games, or whatever). What is play? As I said somewhere in earlier post – the best definitions of play is: Hard work aimed to overcome unnecessary obstacles. Yes, after hard work we go back home to work even harder. First is exhausting, stressful, valuable and miserable and second is… exhausting, stressful, meaningful and satisfying.
One who wants to lead others often times is in position of power just because she/he offers to be a spokesman, an advocate of need to be addressed by community itself. Leader organize people, help in bringing their ideas to life, create strategy based on vision that is shared by his followers. From where I can see there is vacuum of “meaning” we’re filling with time wasted on clicking unthoughtfully “refresh” button on facebook, mail or cute cats (of course I’m oversimplifying but I hope you will get what I mean).
As promised, there won’t be any point of mine (maybe apart from those convoluted in text itself). Maybe you have some thoughts on issues/observations listed above? Please, share.
Until next time, folks 😉
– Przemek Kucia